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"To weep is to make less the depth of grief."
There is no shame in crying to cope with grief. Cry a little, and then move on. You may have two weeks without tears and then cry every day for a month. Do not worry that you will never recover from your loss. You will make it a part of you, and it will open your heart to commiserate with others. Cry when you need to so that you can live and love with an open heart.
"Grief can destroy you --or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter of each day, and didn't allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But when it's over and you're alone, you begin to see that it wasn't just a movie and a dinner together, not just watching sunsets together, not just scrubbing a floor or washing dishes together or worrying over a high electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every event and precious moment of it. The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you to the deeper beauty of it, to the sanctity of it, you can't get off your knees for a long time, you're driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but one day not the emptiness, because to nurture the emptiness, to take solace in it, is to disrespect the gift of life." - Dean Koontz, Odd Hours
Look back at your friendship, your love, and your caring for the one who has passed on. Celebrate what made it great. Share your stories with those who knew that person and are feeling the loss as well. Look for online forums as places to commiserate with others who are grieving. Taking active steps to cope with your sense of sadness will help you to heal and help others to feel less alone.
"Grief is not as heavy as guilt, but it takes more away from you."
- Veronica Roth, Insurgent
When you experience such a profound loss, you have a kind of heaviness in your heart that feels permanent. It seems as if it will smother you with its intensity at times, and makes you question if it will ever lighten.
The light will return. It may not be today, and it may not be tomorrow. The key is to keep moving forward, trying to really live in each moment. Grief is a heavy burden, but it will morph into one that you can carry given time.